So many young people are rushing to the altar these days. Usually, they are high school sweethearts just getting ready to graduate from high school, but have decided that they love each other too much to wait until after college to get married.
Many of these couples are willing to sacrifice anything and everything, even if means losing their family to get married and they are not willing to listen to reason from anyone. It is almost as if they have decided that they know what is best, their family members are ignorant and can’t possibly know what is in their best interest, and will turn their backs on everyone who loves them just to prove that they are adults and can do whatever they want whenever they want. Unfortunately, in most of those cases, the young marriage ends in divorce and the family members are left to pick up the pieces while trying not to say “I told you so”.
There are some warning signs to look for when deciding whether to get married or not get married. The main things to look at are your age, maturity level, and level of commitment you are willing to make in attempts to make this marriage work. It has been proven that almost 90 percent of teenage or young adult marriage will end in divorce. If the young woman or man you are getting ready to marry still acts like a big child and you end up spending most of your time acting as the mother or father figure, then most likely this marriage will be in trouble before it begins. If the person you are getting ready to marry has a track record of getting in and out of numerous relationships in a short amount of time, then this also means that they might have a problem making a lifelong commitment to you and your marriage might very well end in divorce.
It is very important that you and the person you are getting ready to marry sit down with a pastor or counselor and discuss the pros and cons of marriage, the type of hard work and commitment it will take to make the marriage work, and the fact that you both might not be ready to enter into the type of commitment that it will take to keep this marriage alive and well. You need to discuss why you want to get married right away rather than wait until after college, or at least discuss the possibility of being engaged for a year or more to give you enough time to decide whether you both are ready to get married. Both of you have to decide together whether to go ahead with the wedding or call it off.
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